So as a young mother I am still in awe of what different personalities my children have. I laugh when I remember what I thought parents had control over regarding their kids. Or I internally roll my eyes when I hear people complaining about a child's behavior. If I see a mother or father trying in earnest to keep it all together and manage a young child, then my heart goes out to them.
As Maggie gets older, I realize I cannot parent the same way for both my kids. I can be fair between them, but I cannot be the same.
I raised my voice at Maggie last night because she bit me while breastfeeding in bed. I have never heard such a sorrowful cry, it was so filled with hurt. Charlotte would get upset, but would rebound quickly and move on. As a mother I have learn how to set boundaries but respect both girl's emotional response and how they express them.
It helps to try hard and remember how I felt as a kid. Dr Markham says
"kids want us to know they are just kids and trying as hard as they can.
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I remember feeling that way and it helps me feel connected to my children.
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